The reality of settling for love…

The reality of settling for love…
Guest post written by Mercedes

Look around and you’ll see that so many people are settling when it comes to romantic relationships. People settle for different reasons, some of those reasons are fear of being alone, fear of being ridiculed, security, for the sake of the kids etc.

When you settle, you know that you deserve more but you choose to stay in your current situation and that is no way to live. Continue reading “The reality of settling for love…”

Passionate people DON’T want a quick fix…

Passionate people DON’T want a quick fix…

I happen to be born on Valentine’s Day, I’m not sure if that plays a part in why I love so hard but I do. It’s difficult being me lol… We live in a very cold world and our generation sadly doesn’t give a fuck about no one but themselves so someone like me, a (lover) will get walked the fuck over. Most of us are mentally and emotionally messed up because of what people have done to us in the past. We get in these bogus ass relationships with people and go hard for them to end up looking stupid in the end. They stayed inconsistent, lied and cheated and the person after them the did the same. People want your loyalty, your time and devotion but DON’T WANT YOU.

Wait, what…? Continue reading “Passionate people DON’T want a quick fix…”

DON’T SEND YOUR MAN TO THE STORE TO SHOP FOR YOU…

DON’T SEND YOUR MAN TO THE STORE TO SHOP FOR YOU…

More times than none he’s going to come back with the wrong thing…

I’m not sure if its the fact that they don’t want to do it in the first place or they’re actually that slow lol. It’s like once they get to the store they lose their common sense LOL. They don’t know where to start. Pick up a basket or do I need a shopping cart? Do I even need one of those??? Continue reading “DON’T SEND YOUR MAN TO THE STORE TO SHOP FOR YOU…”

Part two: Why SHE won’t cuff you …

Part two: Why SHE won’t cuff you …

The bottom line is that we don’t got time for your games, the disappointment, the heartbreak, the up and down of emotions, nor the mental capacity to juggle you and our goals collectively.

The idea of being black is hard, now add being a woman to the equation. It gets even more difficult. I feel like naturally, we are at the bottom of the barrel so if we want to succeed we have to fight harder than anyone else does, and it says a lot about you if you’re fighting for what you want, going that extra mile every day, even through mental and spiritual breakdowns to ultimately live that extraordinary life. Continue reading “Part two: Why SHE won’t cuff you …”

WHY HE WONT CUFF YOU

WHY HE WONT CUFF YOU

You like him… he likes you… but he won’t cuff you.

Your confused because things are good, you have good times, good sex and a cool bond. You feel as though you are the whole package, how could he pass you up right?

Maybe there was a reason you got passed up. Let’s be real. It’s always them, never us right?

Looking back I can say I used to play victim, putting everything on the other person but forgetting I played a part in allowing whatever was happening to me. How can you be mad at someone for not responding to you in a timely fashion or talking to someone else when you don’t have a title yet? That person is free to do what they want without answering you REGARDLESS of your “bond.” Some feel entitled once they give the person they are messing around with the goods but no, it doesn’t work like that.

If you wanted rules and regulations you should have laid that foundation down first instead of getting intimate and thinking him respecting your feelings was a requirement because you gave him some. Continue reading “WHY HE WONT CUFF YOU”

Why being single could be a good thing…

Why being single could be a good thing…

I feel like a lot of millennials are “hopeless romantics” just waiting on love. Most of us get discouraged when we are steadily meeting people who just aren’t the one. After a while, it gets tiring reintroducing yourself to people that could potentially be the “one”. You spend countless time, money and energy on people to find out that they aren’t even close to worth it. What needs to be a reminder to this generation is patience. You ever think it’s not working because you simply are not ready? Continue reading “Why being single could be a good thing…”

Why black men don’t want black women… (Generation Y?)

Why black men don’t want black women… (Generation Y?)

It’s all over the internet. From celebrity gossip, social media statues or word of mouth, it’s clear black men don’t want us.

Why?

Personally, I think they don’t want to put in that extra work. Most of us have been hurt in some way shape or form that has affected us largely. Some of us have voids that need to be filled, an emptiness of emotions we want you to fulfill with love and protection that may or may not be realistic, but the fact is, the majority of us are simply broken by default.

After getting to know us, they fall in love with our beauty and get blown away by the way we love them, that they unknowingly do not acknowledge our flaws and begin to feel overwhelmed once they’re in too deep. We’re then subjected to an automatic heartbreak because there’s always a better woman. One with fewer issues, less attitude and well, not so damaged… Continue reading “Why black men don’t want black women… (Generation Y?)”