This post is NOT JUST about Nas and Kelis BUT, their situation has triggered me to discuss some issues that I feel are important within the black community. Nas and Kelis (the nature of their relationship, whether true or false) will represent other black couples who ALSO experience TOXIC behavior such as physical abuse or any other kind of abuse that could be detrimental to ones being.
Let’s get into it.
While I have never experienced physical abuse in a relationship, I have experienced physical abuse outside of one. In my relationship with men I have experienced mental and spiritual abuse but either way as a victim of them both I still understand.
So let me tell you what makes me angry about this whole situation and which is the real reason why I decided to write this post.
NO ONE KNOWS WHAT WENT ON IN NAS AND KELI’S HOME BUT THE ONES WHO LIVED THERE.
WHO IS TO SAY WHO IS LYING?
For people, MAJORITY of them being men to say “Oh here we go again with this, another money hungry chick just looking for attention” is RIDICULOUS WHEN IN REALITY YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BECAUSE YOU WERE NOT THERE. Why can’t Nas be the one who is lying? How come every woman that breaks her silence is after money or attention???
WHY WHEN BLACK WOMAN CRY FOR HELP NO ONE HELPS US?
Did you ever think that maybe Kelis and MANY other women who experience abuse FEARED their LIFE? Have you ever been abused?
Have you ever been in a situation where someone was violating you and you couldn’t do anything to protect yourself?
AND I KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE SILENT BECAUSE YOU ARE AFRAID.
AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE MIGHT SAY, THINK OR WHAT YOUR ABUSER MIGHT DO TO YOU.
I don’t know what went on in Nas and Kelis’s relationship but I do know this. IT’S NOT EASY TO SPEAK ABOUT IT. AND IT’S DEFINITELY NOT EASY GOING THROUGH IT. SO before you judge a woman on speaking out about someone that harmed her you need to re-evaluate your response and think before you speak NON SENSE.
Out of all people, the black woman seems to be at the bottom of the barrel in life and ALL things. We are treated the worst, looked down upon and disregarded like we mean NOTHING.
And the saddest part its… it’s mainly by our OWN MEN.
The black man SHOULD love us, protect us and so forth but instead SO MANY black women come out saying they were ABUSED, MISTREATED, RAPED AND THE ONES WHO ARE NOT HERE TO TELL THEIR STORY, KILLED.
Abuse can cripple you, silence you and can make you feel worthless. So for the women that do come out and speak on it, I HIGHLY COMMEND them because it takes COURAGE and STRENGTH to be able to speak about something that could have literally killed you. When you are constantly being beaten, raped, molested, etc it changes the way you think, react etc. YOU ARE NOT THE SAME AND YOU DO NOT THINK THE SAME AS YOU USED TO. Even if the person DOES NOT KILL YOU, it can STILL HAVE A STRONG ENOUGH EFFECT ON YOU TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO TAKE YOUR OWN LIFE.
That’s where depression starts… and if you are not aware, depression kills, your thoughts can KILL. The mind is a dangerous thing.
Nas and Kelis’s relationship might have appeared to be intact and they MIGHT have looked happy BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY WERE HAPPY.
My life looks intact to many on social media and many people think I live a happy life but I AM NOT HAPPY AND I HAVEN’T BEEN FOR SOME YEARS NOW.
I have BAD anxiety and I suffer from depression as well. Every single day is a struggle for me. Sometimes my goals are just STAYING ALIVE UNTIL TOMORROW. Even if I don’t blog or achieve any of my other goals I AM HAPPY I SURVIVED TO SEE ANOTHER DAY.
Don’t judge people based on what they CHOOSE to disclose to you, you have NO idea what they are dealing with behind closed doors.
Whether Kelis is lying or not we should all wait to see how her situation plays out BEFORE we judge her and say she is another “Money hungry chick looking for attention”
I’m praying for healing for all my brothers and sisters.
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