How to find your passion! (Obtaining the keys )

When I tell people I’ve found my passion the first question they always ask me is how? It’s complicated, so throughout this blog, I’m going to give you the “Keys” to understanding and finding your passion and how I found mines. First, let’s identify the importance of finding your purpose, and what it really means.

Finding your purpose is why you exist, everyone is living and breathing on this earth for a reason, of course, this varies from person to person and is based entirely on your interest and ultimate calling.

Some are lucky to find their purpose early in life, way before they even reach adulthood, like child actors and performers. The rest of us grow into young adults confused and lost about which major to pick, choosing something that is non-related to our passion, leaving us in debt and broke in the long run. Either that or settle for a crappy job that offers a low salary you can barely live off of, but have to accept for the meantime because you lack education and skill.

I wasted about a year and a half of my time in college and around $11,000. This may not sound like a lot compared to people who’ve obtained a bachelors degree and are far deeper in debt of around $50-70k but still …That $11k set me back, and being that I won’t be returning to college it seems like a waste now…

So what happened was… I started college for a Lpn, and after 2 semesters I said… I don’t want to do this… A couple of months later I gave it another chance at a different school, I told my self, maybe it was just a “phase”. I took the entry exam, passed and never went back lol. I then relocated and said forget school, let me just try to get back into sales. That’s where the real money is at without really having a degree. I realized the job I wanted was a fluke and at that point, I was really out of options, back to school I went. This time for CNA, I was trying to take the easy way out, pure desperation… The course cost me somewhere around $1,500 it was being offered through a private school so I paid out of pocket. This time I actually finished the course lol… BUT, I failed the state exam, Y’all know I never went back right? Lol

That’s a huge part of the problem, a lot of us are doing it for the money. Do. Not. Do. That.

It’s a setup…

Do what you love, do what makes you genuinely happy, whatever you do, you should be happy to wake up and actually DO.

Don’t be like me and beat yourself up about it for years because you’re just wasting energy and time. Reflecting on the past won’t do you any good, what you need to do is start thinking about how you can change your outcome for the better so you don’t keep making more unnecessary mistakes.

As you can see I was all over the place, and in college, I also wanted to become a chef, then a rapper, then sell homes, WTF??? My hustle was just driving me through the dirt. I was trying so hard to stay afloat because I was really afraid of sinking. It’s like when you can’t swim all that well and you go towards the 6 feet side of the pool and realize you can’t handle it then start fake drowning… yeah…


If you’ve been where I have before and your still looking for the signs to figure out what your passion is, know there is still hope. The first thing you need to do is start spending more time with yourself. If you’re really serious about finding the “keys” stop all the hanging out, eliminate all distractions and start getting FOCUSED! You have to choose between having fun or creating a solid foundation for your future. Choose one, it will be hard to juggle both, especially if you are easily tempted.

I found my passion back one year ago. Exactly how it happened was, I was home alone writing my first book when it hit me as I sat there and re-read all 5 chapters that, this was what I loved, and this was what I wanted to keep doing. It happened in solitude, in the peak of my peace. When your spirit is calm it can show you a whole lot you didn’t know about your self. That’s what you need. Get yo spirit right, do that by meditating, being alone, reading the Bible, whatever works for you, just get that correct first. You absolutely need to be calm.


When I lost my job back in October even better things started coming my way. I was sad and scared because I didn’t know what my next move would be, this was all so abrupt. I lost it, I panicked, I didn’t know how to feel, but once my emotions settled, I wiped my tears and began brainstorming. In my previous blog post “The uncertainty of the unknown” I discuss how my perspective changed my emotional response from negative to positive, which created opportunities for me. In that moment is when I wrote my first blog, that put me to where I’m at now! Look at me now on my 5th blog! From there I literally took off, with more ideas, more drive, and more opportunities. I am now finishing my first book and in addition to that building my brand. Networking, marketing and promoting myself. I even have a business mentor to help me along the way! I don’t think any of these things would have ever happened if the universe didn’t send me those signs I needed. Time gave me this opportunity, it was already within me.

This not only happened to me but for my brother too. He quit his job and didn’t find one for two whole years, in between that time it was a struggle but he got through it by writing, one of the many things he enjoys doing. Sure then he didn’t know where he’d be now, but all his efforts helped him get to where he is now. Collectively using that time to BE ALONE. I’m telling Y’all! Being alone will do it, separating yourself from the world and creating your own will allow things to just flow to you.

Fast forward to this moment… now he is working on his second novel, and a partner founder and CEO of Zenko Nutrition LLC.

Anything is possible when you allow yourself the opportunity to be silent.

Here’s a highlighted list of things you need to start working on to actually find your passion. People can advise you on what to do with your life but that doesn’t mean it’s for you. This is a personal journey, you’ll have to put in that work in order to start seeing some results. Like I mentioned in my last post “Why being single could be a good thing” you are entirely capable of whatever you dream of, just give it life. God gave you all the tools you needed, you just need to dig deeper…

1.) Spend an abundant time with self, this will allow room for you to think and give you a sense of mental peace, you’ll be able to hear your heart.


2.) Start trying new things, dib, and dab to see where your interest lies. (As you can see I had my fair share of this)

3.) When alone and brainstorming on projects etc put your phone on do not disturb until you’re done, it can wait.

4.) Create an office space. A designated area where you can be alone and create. The vision comes alive here… I created my office out of my walk-in closet. Sometimes you gotta improvise.


5.) Get organized. Buy a journal specifically for your thoughts, ideas and all biz related things.

6.) Once you get into a groove stay consistent, if you give up just know you will be starting back at square one again. Mentally, spiritually and physically.

7.) Cleanse your circle. Get rid of all negative and toxic people. They are draining you and slowing down the vision.

8.) BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Whatever you want to do you need to actually believe you can do it. This will set the tone for your success.

9.) Surround yourself with people that are going places, be around people you can look up to. (Also sets the tone)


I hope this post has helped you in some way. I hope that you are motivated and inspired to get the ball rolling. You’re young now but won’t be forever, make your dreams a reality as soon as possible. Don’t waste time doing something you do not enjoy. Keep working diligently to find what you love, the reward is unlike any other.blog11.jpg

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31 thoughts on “How to find your passion! (Obtaining the keys )

  1. This post was great!!! Everything you wrote sounds like you were talking about my life. I am well on my way because I have removed all toxic people to focus on ME. Writing and thinking of ways to help our people is what I love as well. I pray that I stay focused to accomplish the goals of my dreams.

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      1. Oh wow thank you!!!! Definitely appreciate that. I was really skeptical about doing that so I’m happy to hear that!
        Next one will be about why black men don’t want black women!


      2. Oh don’t doubt yourself at all. I agree with all the people who told you that you have a great speaking voice. I’m following so I can’t wait.

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  2. Omg I love this! It is so important to stay true to your calling and do what sets your soul on fire. Loved it! Keep on aiming for your dreams sweetheart.

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  3. This is so so good and very relatable…I too finally found what I was good at in solitude! In fact, it was like a light bulb had been switched on. So grateful, I get the privilege to do what I love while doing life 🙂
    The tips you shared were so helpful in directing me too. Fantastic write up. Thanks so much for this xx

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  4. ….because I just finished my undergraduate and I never enjoyed it. So it left me thinking do I pursue things I enjoy or go back to school and earn another degree to be employable. Its so hard trying to navigate my next move with so many voices and opinions! Gosh This was so honest and transparent. I am making the conscious decision now to be alone with God till we agree on my next move.
    Thank you so much Dolce!
    Never ever stop writing and pursuing your dreams!

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    1. Wow, thank you so much for this feedback. It’s refreshing to know that my post resonated with you in such a positive, inspirational way!
      Absolutely 100% do what you LOVE! Spend as much time with yourself and God identifying what it is that you really have a passion for. I really wish you the best along you’re journey, stay patient and stay creative!

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  5. I love this! I still remember when I figured out what my purpose was..well at least the general idea. It just came so clearly to me! The crazy part is that our purpose is so much bigger than what we could even imagine or think! God has something so much bigger in store for us.

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  6. Hi Dolce. Even though I just started following you I really like your posts. They are helpful and a great read. You are one of the people who I nominated for the Liebster award. It’s in my latest blog post

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  7. Completely agree with you! Being alone helped me focus on asking myself what I really want to do in the future. Surely money is important, but I don’t really see the point of having much money when I can’t enjoy things or works that I do. I’m grateful I’m on the right track now, because my job suits my personality a lot. Eventhough I won’t rack much money like any other jobs, at least I feel grateful because I can enjoy on working. Great post anyway!

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    1. Absolutely! I think alone time is super important. Most of the great things I’ve accomplished would have not been able possible without time!! Thankful for that ! That’s where you get the best ideas, your mind is so clear! Thank you for reading & your feedback ☺️😁


  8. This post is very inspiring. Everything you have mentioned is truly something I’ve been living by – and it shows that my method has been working after all. This post confirms it! You inspire bloggers like myself. I’m definitely subscribing!

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  9. First of all, can I just say that I love that office?! It’s so cute! Secondly, I want to say that this blog really struck a chord with me because, as you know, I am currently in a space where I have no idea what I want to do with my life and it stresses me out! What I love is that throughout this blog, you are showing that you have dealt with the same experience and you are now using your knowledge to help others. You are able to talk the talk because you have walked the walk. Through your blog, I feel like we could all somewhat walk together. 🙂

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  10. Yessssssss friend. You better go head and talk that talk.. I enjoy this why because I just did all these things myself. I let go took a deep breath wrote it down spoke it to life.. Waited in God’s timing and it all came within time..

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  11. “Be consistent ” this is what I have trouble with it’s very hard for me to stick to one thing when I have so many other things to worry about. Work, school, my home, laundry, and my marriage. These are all things I have to keep in line and it’s really easy for me to get distracted, but it’s like you said we have to be consistent. Lots of good points in this blog! Keep inspiring, keep writing!

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    1. Absolutely! That was really hard for me too. But I think once to start spending more time with your self and getting your spirit together all of that just falls in to place !
      Thanks for the feedback illy! 😁


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