Why black men don’t want black women… (Generation Y?)

It’s all over the internet. From celebrity gossip, social media statues or word of mouth, it’s clear black men don’t want us.

Why?

Personally, I think they don’t want to put in that extra work. Most of us have been hurt in some way shape or form that has affected us largely. Some of us have voids that need to be filled, an emptiness of emotions we want you to fulfill with love and protection that may or may not be realistic, but the fact is, the majority of us are simply broken by default.

After getting to know us, they fall in love with our beauty and get blown away by the way we love them, that they unknowingly do not acknowledge our flaws and begin to feel overwhelmed once they’re in too deep. We’re then subjected to an automatic heartbreak because there’s always a better woman. One with fewer issues, less attitude and well, not so damaged…They don’t want us because we’re too emotionally and mentally wounded, our attitudes are a reflection of our pain, that they don’t completely understand but we can’t help it. But not all of us have attitudes, are ratchet, or ignorant. There’s an array of beautiful, unique, intelligent, strong black women out there that would cater to your every need making you feel loved and special if you’d allow it. I know how to treat you, and I know how to love you. After all, we were made for each other. Black men are MADE for black women, we support and understand you like no one else will. Yet, doing everything to fulfill their needs as a man does not mean we can’t get left for Becky with the good hair …

Oh, my hair isn’t good enough?

For some reason they don’t seem to like our natural hair, you know the hair we were born with…They hate the fact that majority of black women wear wigs or weaves to cover up their natural hair that they disliked from the beginning…

Let me tell you what this does… this creates damaged goods. A woman who is worthy yet damaged in her own way. It stemmed from not feeling good enough, now opening up my insecurities, lowering my self-confidence and weakening my emotional state. Who are we really good to at that point? I have to build up all you broke down…Dating just got much harder than it already was.

I think having your own taste in women is fine, but it’s a bad feeling to the opposite sex when your own kind doesn’t desire you, and you’re seen as a burden. Black women are unlike any other kind of women in the world. We are undeniably distinct, and worthy and should be treated as so.

As I connect with other women I hear their stories similar to mine and realize that a large percentage of black women are damaged, so more times out of none, when you meet a black woman she will probably show some of those characteristics. I mean look at how we’ve been treated. Used, abused and kicked to the curb like we mean nothing like we have no value. That can be from either family members, friends, or men, either way, it’s an infliction.

We are by far the strongest of them all. We’ve endured everything under the sun. From being taken advantage of, rejection, abandonment, abuse, sexually, mentally and or physically, and yet, through it all we are still able to love greatly. We put our pain on the back burner and love you wholeheartedly, sometimes putting you first, while you leave us as an option…

Black people as a whole have it hard off the rip just because of our skin color, now add being a woman into the equation. We are already the submissive species by nature, considered weak and emotional, so the fight is even harder. We need you to fight with us. We want togetherness, unity, and your support. We want you to take the time to unravel us, to fully understand us because ideally, we are fighting the same fight. Even though we all have different views, personalities, opinions etc I think the commonality is that we ultimately want to succeed, why not together?

Truthfully, I think black men are just as damaged as black women. No one speaks about it though. What’s been socially normalized is that “Men are strong, men don’t cry, and men don’t get emotional.”

That’s false, but that’s what a lot of men hide behind. Their tough aura and or persona hides the deep-rooted pain, the intense day to day struggle and really the truth. Women would love for that openness, the withdraw of your feelings, let us know so what it is so we can help, let’s talk about it, let me motivate you, let me be your number one fan. It’s not always that easy for them though…

In addition to that, love seems to not be trending at the moment. Everybody’s hurt and people, in general, seem incapable of truly loving one another.

Hold on, there’s more…

Yes, we might be both damaged BUT Black men still have the upper hand here. Since men are good at suppressing their emotions and women are emotional rollercoasters we are left mentally and emotionally fucked up. Most men have the luxury of moving right on to the next.

Sometimes we get left without notice and that’s the worst, but whether there’s a notice or not most times when a relationship ends, you’re left with some residue, especially if you love hard. The built-up pain from either party can leave you hurting, confused, and resistant to REAL love in the future. It’s just a huge circle of pain.

Getting deeper…

Society has done its job of breaking us apart. There are so many factors that play a role in the success and failure of our people. We are not what we used to be. Back in the day, we had both parents in the home, we owned homes. Both parents lived together, we had jobs, education, our children had morals, principles, and respect. Seems like all of that has gone out the window. Our generation is the opposite. Our kids need their fathers, they NEED both parents in the home and they need LOVE. I don’t like hearing out a black mans mouth that they don’t like black women.

“Oh I don’t like black women, if I date one she gotta be light skin, I don’t do dark skin.”

First of all, you’re alive because a black woman gave birth to you. And if this is one of those cases where you mother isn’t black well your father was. Point is your black. Often I hear I prefer Spanish, (Even though that’s a language) or white women etc. That personal preference may just be a preference but I feel like you’re choosing not to love your struggle, which is what you are made of…

(Digging deeper )

Where do you think soul food deprived of? Or the saying black people have “Soul?” Those are reflections of our pain and the immense struggle we endured over the years. We were once slaves and had everything ripped from us. We made meals from scraps because that’s all we were given by our owners. Leftover animal remains such as pig intestines (chitterlings) pigtail, chicken neck and gizzards were primary in our meals.

Now I said that to make a point, what’s left of our “culture” that “African Americans” may know is entirely made up of our struggle, and that’s as real as it gets. You must love your struggle and love your self. Love you naturally, love our people naturally. Why should my man encourage me to perm my hair or wear weaves over my natural kinky hair? Or makeup and eyelashes extensions versus my NATURAL beauty? That means you don’t love ME. And there’s a lot of that going on… I watched a man tell his wife on The Steve Harvey show that he hates her natural hair and that she should go back to her Brazilian bundles. He even ran out the house because he said he didn’t recognize her. So sad. You could clearly tell she was hurt by that and it probably opened up some type of insecurity, and lack of confidence. Imagine if he supported her natural hair journey, she would probably be a lot more confident within her self as a woman.

We have a lot of work to do as a culture, and what’s necessary is for us to try our best at loving and supporting our people, we are literally all we got.

Black women are imperfectly perfect complex beings but that doesn’t mean we don’t need love. Encourage us to be the best version of ourselves and we will in return give you the same creating an unstoppable force that’s beautiful and divine.

“We need women who are so strong that they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.”

-Kavita Ramdas

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68 thoughts on “Why black men don’t want black women… (Generation Y?)

  1. Hmmmm……
    First off…..I love this post! It’s the third post I’ve and the third one I’m responding too (I’m sure all the other ones will have the same outcome for me). Where I was raised at (Camden,NJ) the demographics are as follows via Data USA: Hispanic residents (48.1%), 32,203 Black residents (42.4%), 4,013 White residents (5.28%), 2,075 Asian residents (2.73%), and 832 Two+ residents (1.09%). This is recently but I’m sure when I resided there the ratio of the top two tiers were even higher. At school and society my interactions were limited to other African Americans, Hispanics and Asians. Fast forward to my move too NC and my interactions were full of white people and my own. When I moved to Va Beach there was a smorgasbord of interactions from every background you could imagine. It was mostly due to this being one of the biggest military hubs of the middle east of the United States. You can damn near save I’ve dated all races. Reason…..Because of location and opportunity. Sure…I had my own race crushing on me at times, but as I matured the ones that were crushing were no where to be found. Or they were playing games when I was being for real. I’ve faced as much heartache or heartbreak. Either I was the receiver or the one causing the previously mentioned situations. A lot of it was learning from a far or by personally experiencing it myself. Once I matured from having life things happen on a huge/small scale then I was able to fully project who I am and what women would like concerning me. I didn’t really have sista checking on me until they saw I was doing well for myself. Cars, clothes, sneakers, trips (those are the main things we were looked to acquire where I’m from) and I really started popping until I got my house built in Atlanta. I was engaged to a woman that is of Moroccan and Israeli decent. She was checking for me before all of that and I eventually asked for her hand in marriage. I never got married, but afterwards the ones I previously got shade from were “all of a sudden” very interested in me. So I indulged and we all had a great time, but I wasn’t at the point in life where I wanted something serious. I didn’t want to be locked down and I made that known up front. All the while continuing to enjoy the fruits that I previously hadn’t had access too (even though I was the same guy from before, but now with more life experiences). It didn’t matter their race at that point because I didn’t discriminate. Well…..I did stay away from women with children from all races because when the time came I wanted my family experience. Once broadened my horizons and move that immature thought out of my mind, I had limitless opinions to choose from. My mother is Black and so are my Aunts, Grandmothers, Ancestors and so on. I love them with all of my heart and I thought my starting a family would be with Black. I wanted a Black woman, but I didn’t want anyone like my mom. LOL. There’s plenty of women of other ethnicities that remind me of her. She’s a great woman, but the attitude and fire she brung….I couldn’t see myself dealing with that as a wife. Again…..There’s woman of other ethnicities that remind me of her. I moved to these different places and had this global experience, from being in the Army, I had no clue about who I would be starting a family, other than knowing that it would be a woman (regardless of ethnicity). You can also blame Spike Lee’s joint: Jungle Fever. I didn’t have the courage to talk to someone of the opposite race until seeing that. It was a break through of sorts because it made me comfortable approaching them like I had with Black women. During my time of having fun I came across a coworker that was interested in me. She knew what she wanted and I did too, but there was no tripping on relationship goals. In essence, we were friends, confidants and lovers. I even found myself moving to Hawaii to simmer things down because I didn’t really want the life. The life of being with someone that had already been married and one that bore two kids. By the time I came back she was still checking on me and from her point of view: We were together. The realness hit when I told her that I might’ve gotten an older woman pregnant. She was hurt (figured I cheated) because she thought we were together at the time, but there was no clarity on that because I was gone. We hadn’t talked in a year, no boundaries were set….Hell, I’m single. At that point I decided that I needed to chill. I’m guessing there’s nothing worse than having a child with someone you’re just kicking it with. It got real for me and I become exclusive dick….In a relationship….Taking care of kids that aren’t mine like they are my own…..Just being an adult and real real things. Before that time we were off and on and after awhile 9 years passed by. I have a 7 month old by her now and the older chick was lying (she wasn’t pregnant at all….Two strikes for me and I didn’t want to have there be a 4th). The past few years have had me dealing with her getting emotional everytime one of her friend’s wedding anniversary pops up. Me and her don’t even have a proper date for an anniversary so we just chuck it up to the year and approximate month we met. I’d love my sons mother to carry our name, but there’s still a few thing that I’d like for her understand concerning the Black experience. I never really had to have these talks until I knew she’d be bringing our son into this world. I know she empathizes with the experiences I’ve had this far and she’s felt situations while in my presence. This whole Trump had opened my eye to how certain people think and also how she sees things. It an open dialogue because this is in real time. When I get married, I want it to be forever and not something where I have to divorce her to not have that bond anymore. She’s worthy, but you can never be too careful. She probably thinks the same of me…Better…or Worse. I know that it would’ve been the same had I talked to any other ethnicity. Also in this time…..I have faults too because I tend to find myself In Search Of….., but then again I’m searching. If that makes any sense. There goes that being around folks again that haunts me. I just want to be realistic knowing once I walk down that aisle there’s no turning back. She just so happens to be Caucasian/ White/Irish. Love. Smile.

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  2. Sooooo…..yes. All this. Yes. All of my life black men did not approach me. I grew up in the suburbs, so not only did I deal with being tried because I “talked proper” or was not considered black enough, but I dealt with not being noticed by black men. White men have never had a problem approaching me, so a lot of my life I dated white guys. Wound up marrying one too.

    I would then have black men give me shit cuz I’m with that “white boy” or whatever but it’s like…”You didn’t want me”.

    Now I’m in a place in my life where I would love my next relationship to be with a strong, faithful brother…but still, I seem to be non existent.

    While they wanna talk crap for us dating outside our race they need to realize, we didn’t reject them, it was the other way around.

    At least in my experience.

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    1. I agree with that sis. It is the other way around, (in some cases)
      I think black men have come to the conclusion that we are “too much to handle” and to hard to please so I feel like they take the easy way out. Even more in Hollywood too. Smh

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  3. Girl!!!!!! You gave me all types of life with this one. It was real as hell. I AGREE with so many things you said and it sucks because no one wants talk about these things. If we do we almost always get perceived as trying to get in his business or pry. I had a man tell me I make something out of nothing and he’s fine. I’m like clearly you aren’t but you’re so conditioned to shut me out when I am taking the time to try to help you. I loved it and I am so happy I found your blog! Thank you!

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  4. Girl yes. I’m all for having a preference, but I dislike when black men talk down on black women. Most of their dislike stems from ignorance, self hate, and dysfunction. The system has taught black ppl to hate themselves and love everything we are not, including black women. In commercials you’d always see haircare advertising for European standards of beauty, but when did we see haircare products for us? Not until recently, when embracing our natural hair became a “ thing” again. Black women were always taught to hide their hair, not maintain it. Then there’s the fact that our hair is fragile sometimes we wear weaves and extensions as protect styles. I say this to prove the ignorance is anyone, including black men who dislike our hair or hairstyles. To dislike a black woman is to dislike themselves because they come from a long line of black women. Mom, grandmom, aunties, sisters, all black. Then there’s the stereotypes and the all famous “ angry black women” narrative. These are justifications that again stem from ignorance and lack of understanding. But hey, us black women have always been resilient. The only cure to this is love of self from both black and women. I could go and on about this topic lol good read though girl👏🏾👏🏾

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    1. Thank you SO much!!!
      I agree!! A preference is fine but the fact that a black man can say he doesn’t like black woman is MIND BLOWING!
      Definitely a sign of self hate in my opinion. If you don’t like black women and your BLACK, there’s a part of you that hates your self and that’s how I see it.
      Thanks for the feedback sis!

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  5. Girl! You made me think with this piece! It actually brought back some memories that I’ve always tried to suppress! Thanks for your honesty & transparency! Sometimes you don’t realise how much the negative perceptions can affect how you see yourself & it makes you wonder why you’re deemed as not ‘worth it’. I’m so happy that I don’t need any guy, black or otherwise to validate my worth again. Here’s to more women being free from the rejection of men, specifically black men at times. We are beautiful with or without their validation.

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    1. Wowww!!!!
      You are giving me so much life with this comment!🙌🏽
      I’m really happy to hear that my post gave you some realization and also a positive impact on your perception!
      It’s time that Black men AND women come together and let go of this disconnect! I feel a lot of men are disconnecting from us and moving on to women of other races for many reasons, some I stated in this post and then some.
      Really it all balls down to our individual jobs as a culture.
      WE NEED TO GET OUR SHIT TOGETHER.
      We all need to recognize and accept that we need HEALING!
      Thank you for reading and cheers to being free from rejection and validation 🥂

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  6. OK, so this is coming from a man who has been dating damaged women all of his dating life. I have been married and divorced twice to black women. I was not perfect, but I was a hardworking and faithful man to both. I have often been through phases where I said “Im getting me a white girl”, until I started talking to white girls and realized that they have issues too. I came to a conclusion, we all have issues no matter the gender or race. I think that we over complicate things as humans. The only logical reason for all of the hurt and pain are “Choices” that we make. Ill keep things black for the sake of the post. Black men and Black Women are to blame for this disconnect with each other. Let’s start with black men! Black men are often raised without a father, and if they do have a father, they pick up on the bad habits of the father. They have seen there mother mistreated by different men, and/or by the father. These boys grow up to mistreat there women, and here goes the damage. The woman is damaged by the time she reaches the next man, this man is might be a good man, but he’s about to go on the ride of his life. Now he thinks that every woman is pyshco, he then becomes damaged goods, and they cycle continues. As for the women, they are often raised without a father, and if they did have a father, he may have been abusive to the mother. The girl grows up not knowing what a real man is, so she calls Tyrone. Tyrone tells her that she loves her, knocks her up,and disappears into the moonlight. She meets another dude, he tells her the same dam thing, and here we go again. The only thing about a woman is that she will stick with the bum ass dude for waaay to long. The good man is someone losing his mind over a damaged women who he loves. So he goes with the white girl stuff, but what he doesn’t know is its the type of Black Women hes choosing. Everybody is hurt, a little damaged, and probably half ass crazy, but this is no excuse to carry own in abusive ways. How do we stop?

    We have to Love ourselves! When you love yourself, I mean really love yourself, you WILL NOT deal with anybody’s foolishness. When you love yourself you will not mistreat others, that love will have to transfer from you to the next person. I know people who have had the perfect upbringing, and they still don’t know how to treat others. Some women have had there dad’s warn them about Mr. Super Thug, and they still chose the dam fool. It’s all about how you see yourself, and I love myself, and I have never purposely hurt any mate. My second wife was so disrespectful that I divorced her within a year. I refused to deal with foolishness, and I didn’t realize that she was so hurt by her baby’s father. She treated me the way that he treated her. So we have to love ourselves enough not to deal with bullshit from others. Yes it really is that simple! If you have been hurt don’t be afraid to move on and treat somebody right, but if they show you a different side, keep it moving. Sorry for the long comment, I love these kinds of posts. Peace and Blessings!
    http://www.kingbraswell.com!

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    1. Definitely agree !!! It is a CYCLE! And it mainly stems from our parents and generations of mistreatment! I didn’t want to get TO much into what you explained because it would have been a VERY LENGTHY POST but I did touch the surface. We need to absolutely love ourselves and take care of our mental and emotional state prior to committing to loving others! Specifically in the black community bc majority of us are DAMAGED! The cycle will never end unless me make that conscious decision to work on ourselves FIRST!
      Thanks for reading !!

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  7. This is very accurate for the majority. I have had two experiences in my life first hand that prove so and small experiences through out that hint.The first one was when i was 15, a boy said he wouldn’t date me because he does not like blacks girls funny enough the guy was black himself and of a darker complexion then me.Another experience was when a guy said that he first preferred lighter or white girls over black girls.I also noticed the different reactions i would get from people when i decided to wear my natural hair more often. Media definitely plays a very big role in this,black people have been installed to prefer people of a lighter complexion from the beginning of time,and this has only exacerbated from the increase advertisement of interracial couples and mixed children.

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  8. I literally just had a brief conversation about this with my cousin not too long ago. It was very brief and I definitely plan on elaborating on this subject the next time I see him! Keep up the good work Dolce! You made some really good points and I definitely agree. 😁

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    1. I know I’m waay late to this convo (excellent and profound piece btw) but it’s funnt bc most of these Black men will say they love and protect their mother, sisters and grandmother.

      I read another piece recently that said maybe these men secretly hate their own mother – not because they had a hard upbringing or saw a lot of mess or experienced abondonment or trauma (although that could of course affect them if they did), but for the ones who *especially* had an okay life they still have issues accepting Black. The lady proposed that maybe they even resent their own mother because she herself is Black, which, is essence. the creator of all things Black. She also said that Black men tend to compartmentalize a lot. It is very possible they can love and protect their mother & sister(s) and grandmother, but still hate other Black women without blinking an eye. Either way, a very interesting dwelve into their though processes when it comes to Black women

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  9. This was amazing! What we MUST do as black women, is LOVE ourselves first and foremost! We must take what we have been through and learn from it, grow from it and keep it moving. We for damn sure should never be mad if someone doesn’t want us, it’s their LOST!

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leaving your feedback! Absolutely!!!! 10000% unfortunately a lot of us already made that mistake early in our lives, due to a lack of guidance and voids that we’re not filled while growing, but it’s never too late to turn things around. Our people as a whole need to work on self love. This right here is a HUGE problem in the black community

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  10. I understand I agree with this. Root of the problem starts off with the way we were raised or from elders. People tend to believe what they hear and people become brainwashed. One day I may make a blog about this myself about black people in general.
    Nice blog and I wish you luck with your blogging and social life and I look forward to any of your future blogs.

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  11. After reading this I starting to understand where black women come from.
    I’m a black man and i can’t lie at one point, I too was tired of dealing with black women and was looking to interact with women with other races.
    Black women do get the least respect out of all women because both black men and women come from dysfunctional families
    Your post was interesting but one thing I will say is another reason I feel black men don’t want black women is because black women fight with each other and put each other down.I agree black men do need to fight and respect black women, but black women first must learn to get along with each other. I know a lot of black women that told me they have more male friends than women because women are hard to get along with.
    I love black women just like all other women and I’m starting to understand where they are coming from. But for the black women that are curious to why black men don’t want them, well take it from my point of view, a lot of black women I dealt with are loud and moody, judgmental and usually go after the hood n*ggas. Now I am not placing all black women in this category but what use to kill me was the attitude. I going to honest, when I started being around white people, I realized how peaceful the environment was and everybody get along and respect each other. So sometimes we as black men need a break from violence and ignorance so sometimes we may drift off in the white area or white women. But don’t get me wrong white people aren’t any better because they will pretend to be your friend and talk about you behind your back. Just like black people some white people are loud and rambunctious. White men too disrespect white women the way black men disrespect black women. Believe it or not there are white men that are into black women.
    I could talk about this all day but I’ll stop right here.
    I love black women just like I love white women. I love all women.
    One thing I just wish is for black women to get along with each other and to really stop saying “Men are trash” on twitter because that makes black people looks bad as w hole towards other races.
    White men as well disrespect white women as well it’s just nobody talks about it.
    Apologize if I went off topic but if you disagree with anything I said feel free to let me knoiw

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    1. Yeah I agree , I left it off as we as whole need to do better. Your right we can be here all day talking about this. The problem is deep rooted and has so many Avenues. Black men and women play a part, and yes bc we are broken. Sometimes we get into relationships with toxic people and more time out of none you connected with that person in the first place bc you have like souls. Both are toxic. And that’s not a positive environment for anyone to grow or be happy. Of course not all men are bad, not all black women have attitudes, and not all black people are broken or damaged but we are talking about the ones who are. Bc there’s a lot out there that definitely need healing. It starts with you first. I think a lot of POC don’t take the time to heal themselves first or even think they have anything to fix in the first place. We have to acknowledge that there’s an issue. There’s always a root to the problem and why someone acts the way they do.
      Also white black or Asian people disrespect each other PERIOD. Right now I’m concerned about how my people treat each other .

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  12. In my opinion I prefer a black queen, it’s just finding that right queen that takes time. So men go with the flow or base there past experiences on there future relationships and turn towards another race. All colors have flaws so I agree color isn’t the issue its the mind of the men and the woman they choose.

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    1. Yes, but black men need to be patient with black women, most of us are damaged / broken in some way shape or form. We need to be showered with love and we need patience . I read that almost 80% of black women have suffered from some type of abuse. Mentally, physically or sexually. That takes a toll on us and definitely effects our mentally capacity in choosing the next man. Our system is broken and has failed us. Ultimately we need to work collectively as a culture. Black men and women are broken period.

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      1. I agree but I disagree, I can’t speak for all men but I can speak for my self. I agree that patience is key to mend a broken heart of a woman, but most men don’t take the time do see the potential in that woman and they move on. But like I said you are right this era and how children of our race are being brought up it will on get worst. That’s why I wanted to write a book what is a relationship, me and you seem similar seem.

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      2. Also. I’m not just speaking about a broken heart. I’m speaking about a women who has been through it all. Molested, raped, abused, belittled, abandoned, taken advantage of PERIOD. Not just my boyfriend dumped me.
        Black women have been Through a lot it’s important that we acknowledge those specifics.

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      3. That’s my point. They don’t take the time to fully unravel us. Once they start getting those flags that we are damaged they run off. Damaged doesn’t always mean bad. We are still #worthy.
        I feel some men are equally as damaged but handle it in their own way.
        Again we must come together and be their for one another.
        We are ALL WE GOT.

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  13. This is a great piece Dolce. But may I ask aren’t we the ones who caused our selves to become damage goods? Isn’t it the black men who have caused us black women to become damage goods reflecting on slavery and seeing it is the black men that have idolized the body of whites and demean women of there own kind. And now in this century they wish that all women look a certain way?

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    1. Thank you for your feedback !!
      I think men play a huge part in us being damaged. Women rely on love and men don’t always know how to properly love us. If you were broken PRIOR to the relationship you are considered very delicate. Men have the upper hand like I stated in my post, so with that being said we are automatically the submissive species, naturally. I ended my post stating that we have to do better as a culture because we do! It’s not throwing every thing on one party but men do have a HUGE part of why we are damaged in the first place . The first person who damaged me unfortunately was my father, then after that was a cycle of broken men.
      It gets really deep.

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  14. Great insight and well written. I believe the reason why all women and especially our BLACK women are taking for granted and rejected. Firstly, lack of a father figure in the home because a father is usually the image his daughter seek. Secondly, most of black man is not home to teach their son of how to be a MAN, HUSBAND, and a FATHER. Thirdly, most men does not understunderstad the need of a woman. The number one need of a woman is affection. This mean applying a action to her. For example, a car needs gas to run but do you need gas no, but the car need gas. Fourth, women are motivated by what they hear. So man we need to tell our woman how much we appreciated them.

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